The Love You Give Yourself

We’re taught to search for love out there—across a crowded room, in someone else’s eyes, in late-night texts or Sunday mornings tangled in sheets. But rarely are we taught the most essential truth: the first great love of your life should be you.

Self-love is not just bubble baths and affirmations. It’s boundaries. It’s forgiveness. It’s being honest with yourself when no one else is watching.

It’s saying, “I deserve better,” even when staying feels easier.

It’s choosing rest instead of productivity when your body is tired.

It’s standing in the mirror and seeing more than flaws—you see history, resilience, becoming.

Today, I made a list of the ways I’ve betrayed myself in the name of “love.” Letting things slide. Shrinking to be liked. Staying silent when my voice trembled to speak. And yet, I’ve also begun the slow journey back to myself. It’s not glamorous. Some days, it’s lonely. But it’s real.

The most dangerous myth we’re sold is that someone else will come and make us whole.

But here’s the truth: you were never broken. You were just taught to see yourself through the wrong lens.

Today’s reminder:

Love isn’t only something you wait to receive. It’s something you actively give yourself, in every small choice, every gentle word, every time you choose peace over perfection.

Before you love someone else deeply, love yourself wildly. Not because you have to—but because you deserve to.